Q: People keep asking how many carats my ring is and it makes me uncomfortable. What can I say?
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VIDEO SUMMARY
So if you are one of the people that have been blessed with a gemstone or diamond on the larger size in your engagement ring, and a lot of people have been asking you how many carats is it? And you are just so over it, what I like to say is big enough? And hopefully they’ll just leave it at that and get the hint that you don’t want to talk about it.
VIDEO SUMMARY
If it was me, I would just say, Can I send you a 1099 for being all up my business? Now, I think it can be an uncomfortable conversation, and I don’t think anyone means anything by it. It is snobby regard. I think typically they could just be curious. Maybe they’re looking at rings and they just really like it and they want to know what to ask for.
A way to kind of calm this insecurity of answering this question just because it is uncomfortable, even if it’s really large or really small. Just say, actually, I have no idea. It wasn’t important to us. We didn’t talk about it. Just try to lead them away from even digging further. So just to say you don’t know. It’s simple.
And send them that 1099, if you need to.
2 comments
I have been asked this so many times... does the wedding industry inflate prices when they hear it's a wedding?
Here is my honest answer (as a former wedding photographer)... NO. Did I charge more for a wedding than a 50th birthday party or a family portrait session? Yes, absolutely. I charged A LOT more for a wedding.
Was I taking advantage of the emotional sell? Absolutely not.
The main reasons I charged more for a wedding were: the unseen amount of work involved in the 12+ months leading up to the wedding, the skill level needed on the day, the INTENSE pressure to create perfect "portfolio level work" no matter what the reality of the situation- but mostly it is to compensate for the time AFTER the wedding in post production.
Little known fact about wedding photography - the real job is sitting at a computer editing photos. Photographers spend many hours behind the computer carefully selecting and editing photos. They make adjustments, crop, and adjust colors to ensure each image it's best. Don't forget the time it takes for batching, renaming, importing, exporting and uploading the photos and preparing them for delivery.
Do you think this justifies why photographers charge more for weddings than for other types of shoots?
Couldn’t agree more! And on the videography side its an absolute ton of data + editing discipline.
Its a double sided coin- weddings are extremely high pressure but also high reward when we nail it.
Our products (photo video) in particular are the only thing that genuinely will last forever . Having fun and ALSO nailing the product is worth the price of entry and frankly more.